Involving the father in the tasks, preserving some organization in the day-to-day management, saving time for the couple and for relaxed moments in the family should be some of the aspects to take into account in the management of everyday “stress”.
Fathers have their own ways of acting. Each one will have his way of acting in a certain situation, it can be giving a bath or to dress the child, not necessarily one way is better than the other. On the contrary, they will all be complementary and useful to the formation of the child's individuality. It will be important for the mother to entrust and delegate some tasks to the father, so it’s not only to allow affective bonds between father and child, but also to gain some time for yourself.
The mother doesn’t have and should not be perfect because in making an increased effort to be involved in everything and full time, ends up putting itself in the bottom. The mother is more prominent because although we know that the father has a figure that is much more present and more prominent than before, it turns out that the mother is, in a general way, the largest percentage of all issues involving the development of children. We all have several lives. We are not one-dimensional, the mother is not just a mother, nor is the father just a father, just as the child is not only a child.
We tend to minimize the importance of the couple's relationship in favor of children, being socially accepted, and sometimes feeling guilty if it goes the other way. Protecting the marriage of the children, arranging time for the couple and someone who stays with them, running away without guilt from time to time, will be as necessary as healthy.
To gain autonomy, the child needs good examples. Having a calm mother and happy parents contributes to a warm family that helps to treat the children with greater serenity. Enjoy and take a day to do everything you like to do, it can be for beauty, for reading, to meet with your friends, or just stay quiet watching TV.
Be the best to yourself!